Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others: The Fascinating Research That Can Land You the Husband of Your Dreams 
Product Description: - Finally the Code has been Cracked. Discover What it Really takes to Catch a Husband! You re about to find not guesswork but hard facts based on the same kind of scientific research that pollsters use to predict consumer behavior with pinpoint accuracy. John T. Molloy and his staff polled over 2,500 women and their fiances and over 1,000 single people who answered a host of detailed, often intimate questions. The information proved so powerful that half the single women working on this book got married within three years! Now you, too, can learn: How to increase your chances of marrying by up to sixty percent * The ten warning signals that a man is never going to marry * How to make a man want to marry you and how to trigger a proposal * The advantages-and dangers-of dating divorced or widowed men * What you absolutely must wear when you meet your boyfriend s parents, and much more.
Customer Ratings: - Don t listen to any other review but this one. This book is a great read... this is my second time buying it because it has been torn to shreds due to my girlfriends ( many of whom are now married) who have borrowed it. The fact is the book is painfully true!! Don t listen to reveiwers who say that they are against the grain and are now married so this book must be wrong...
Don t listen to them!! This book is what every woman needs!!!
It is common sense, but then somethings that aren t common sense. If you want to get married, find a good husband, then act like it! Forget the sex and the city mantra. It doesn t work...
Now no one is saying that you should asap on the first date start taking wedding band measurements, but be proud of your sincere ambitions to become a good wife and mother.. Don t be ashamed. What is really shameful is dropping hints and begging for marriage after five years!
What I like about the book is its no nonsense approach. I work in a very popular and well known bridal shop. And many of the women getting married fall into the catogories that are in the book.
Getting married has changed. No longer do we live in a soceity that we can leave it to luck or meant to be. That is all bull. Anyone in this life that has something worth sqaut will tell you that it takes, either hardwork, focus, and determination to get something that is wonderful and great..
I am upset that someone left that type of review for this book. Easy for them to say.. they are married!!! Also this book present a great notion...
It is great to be married to men who really want to be married. Men who know from the begining that you are serious yet pleasent about wanting to get married.
Many women don t know how or when to introduce marriage.. Well it is from the very beginning.. the same way a man lets you know from the start that there will be no ring changing in his future anytime soon.. yet you still date him, because he didnt direct it right towards you. Then ladies you do the same.. you tell him that marriage appeals to you and that you would love to be a wife and mother..
Then carry yourself accordingly. The reason why most women are terrified to do this approach is because they sell themselves short and play all their chips at once and leave nothing to bargin with while the male has hidden his hands...
Keep your legs crossed until you have reached the level of commimment that you are happy with. Its not easy, but its much easier than explaining to aunt fanny why after 10 years courtship why you still leave together and keep buying wedding magazines...
- I found my own strategy!. I married late in life, and I m glad I did. But my reason for staying single for so long was simply that I am a person who has a lot of things I like to do -- I enjoy music, reading, writing and I am a teacher -- all of which kept me very busy. And I noticed two positive things:
1. I refused to get into a snit about being single. I simply wasn t worried about it. Single life was good to me and I had a great time (minus the offensive questions I would be asked). I dated occasionally, some times a lot and sometimes seldom.
2. I didn t wrap up my identity in a man. Although I got a lot of verbal garbage from other people, I knew I was OK even if I wasn t married.
I have now been married for seven years. By John Molloy s standards, I had a snowball s chance in Uno Where of getting married, but it happened. And believe me, it was not done through John Molloy advice! If what John Molloy says is true (and perhaps there is some truth to it) then the relationship is of no value to me. If a man my age or older wants a 20-year old, then no matter how much I respect myself, the dude isn t going to marry me. And I ll be better off. If most men really do value beauty and fertility more than anything else, then I don t want most men. The calendar and Mother Nature will age me (as it will the man). Some things are worse than being single, and one of them is trying to fit into this silly game.
Fortunately, I don t think all men are like this. There are plenty of rational guys out there, and my advice to women is this: look for them. They exist.
Not all women are contented to be single, I realize. Although I am quite a worry wart by nature, oddly enough, staying single was one thing I did not worry about. To be honest, I don t know if my husband is Alpha, Beta, Kappa or Omicron. But I do know this -- our relatioinship is of great value to both of us.
- Statistical, But Still Meaningful. This is a factual book based on research. It is not a here s how to work a man book.
Although it is clinical in its exploration of statistics, there were still eye-opening and meaningful observations in the midst.
The upshot was that for the most part women who have never married have never pushed particularly hard to do so. More power to the women that have lived the life of their choosing and have not caved in to the pressure that society often puts on singles.
There were some observations about men that were rather heartbreaking.
1) Some men really do want to marry, but they have basically given up. Either they are deemed undesirable for a handful of reasons, or they have been badly hurt.
2) Some widowed men who had seen their wives go through lengthy and heart-wrenching illnesses did not want to ever put themselves in the position of going through that again.
3) Some single fathers are so frazzled and drained from merely getting through the day that they have no energy left to socialize and no agenda in terms of developing a relationship with a woman.
This book is worth reading. Although this is generally a clinical exploration, there are plenty of meaningful observations lurking in the statistics. This book will help give you a better understanding of men, women, and marriage in our society. - ssential Reading. This book is so well researched, as the author constantly reminds you, that is quite hard to argue with the evidence and theories presented. I found this book very enjoyable reading because it was so packed with statistics and real life examples. The book is full of help, advice and information on what exactly motivates men to marry women,and this subject is divided in to the various stages of men s lives, the various kinds of men and their various baggage, and the kind of women that men marry.
It is fresh, original and informative.
It s not a manual on how to get a man to marry you, but it will help you look at your man s marriage potential with a new perspective.
Check it out ! You will learn something new! I also highly recommend another great book How to Snag a Guy and Keep Him Hooked: 99 Ways to Make Him Ache for You - Read It and Use It. I was in a relationship that lasted four years and went absolutely nowhere and I could not figure out why. After reading this book, I realized that there were red flags from day one and I did not know enough to clue in on them. I decided to put this book to the test. First, I decided that my life would not be complete if I was not married so I dated with the idea that I was looking for a prospective husband. If, after a few dates, it was evident that the relationship would not lead to marriage, I moved on (I was 27 and didn t want to waste time in relationships that were not going to give me what I wanted). Eventually after a few months, I met my current boyfriend and the material in the book gave me insight into our relationship. The chapter regarding age of commitment was/is especially helpful to understand when a man of his educational and professional background would be ready to commit. Right now I am planting the seed regarding marriage. I actually came right out and told him that I want to marry him! It s still too early to tell if this tactic will work but he was very receptive to what I was saying. So I guess we ll have to see...
The bottom line is that I felt this book was intuitive and really helped me. I think it will be relavant to most single women, even those over 35, considering that so many couples are getting married at an older age. I just bought myself a second copy on Amazon. I loaned out the first copy and never got it back. It is definitely the type of thing I d want to refer back to.
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Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others: The Fascinating Research That Can Land You the Husband of Your Dreams (ID: 0446614289)
