Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together: A Pioneering Approach to Communicating in Business and in Life 
Product Description: - Modern conversation is a lot like nuclear physics, argues William Isaacs. Lots of atoms zoom around, many of which just rush past each other. But others collide, creating friction. Even if our atomic conversations don t turn contentious, they often just serve to establish each participant s place in the cosmos. One guy shares a statistic he s privy to, another shares another fact, and on and on. Each person fires off a titbit, pauses to reload while someone else talks, then fires off another. In Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together, Isaacs explains how we can do better than that.
Isaacs, who is Director of the Dialogue Project at MIT and a consultant to major corporations, including AT&T and Intel, believes that corporate, political and personal communication can be a process of thinking together--as opposed to thinking alone and then trying to convince others of our positions by refusing to consider other opinions, withholding information, and ultimately getting angry and defensive. This is not pie-in-the-sky, let s-all-hold-hands-and-sing stuff. He offers concrete ideas for both listening and speaking, for avoiding the forces that undermine meaningful conversation, for changing the physical setting of the dialogue to change its quality. The outcome, he says, can be quite different from the traditional winner-loser structure of arguments and debates. Businesses can make more reasoned decisions and thus earn more money. Governments can create peaceful resolutions to seemingly intractable problems. (As an example of this, Isaacs cites secret conversations between Nelson Mandela and F.W. de Klerk in South Africa, which occurred over a number of years, while Mandela was still under arrest, and led to a new framework for their country.) And, though this is a book primarily geared toward managers, even married couples can learn a few new ways to communicate. --Lou Schuler, Amazon.com
Customer Ratings: - Interesting but lacks editing. This book has many interesting and valuable insights - and I agree with much of what is said in the other favourable reviews. However, it has too many anecdotes and a lot of unneccessary repetition. It would have been a lot more accessible with a good editor.
- Interactive Humanity.
According to the subtitle, Isaacs provides a pioneering approach to communicating in business and in life. This he does with insight and eloquence. There is a great need for what this book provides, especially now as organizations are (finally) beginning to appreciate the importance of supporting (indeed nourishing) the personal as well as the professional development of their human capital The word dialogue denotes conversation between two or more persons. Moreover, the original meaning of the word conversation is to turn around, to transform, later, the word s meaning evolved to living, dwelling, and associating with others. Today, most of us think of conversation as talk. Some of us think of it as a lost art. Isaacs obviously has both words clearly in mind as he introduces his pioneering approach. His purpose is to explain HOW effective dialogue, dialogue which is about a shared inquiry, a way of thinking and reflecting together, can increase and enhance human dignity and understanding. How important is face-to-face communication? My own opinion is that it is more important now than ever before. However, again my opinion, the quality of face-to-face communication has rapidly deteriorated in this age of high-speed electronic connectivity.
Isaacs book is organized into five Parts: What Is Dialogue, Building Capacity for New Behavior (ie listening, respecting, suspending, and voicing), Predictive Intuition, Architecture of the Invisible, and Widening the Circle. several For me, one of the most important of Isaacs themes is so obvious, so simple: Show your respect for others by listening carefully to what they say. Dialogue worthy of the name is based on mutual respect. Hence the importance of attitude. Dialogue worthy of the name requires mastery of certain skills which can be taught. Isaacs provides all manner of practical suggestions as to HOW (a) to establish the proper attitude within any organization and (b) to strengthen the specific skills needed to sustain that attitude.
Near the end of his brilliant book, Isaacs observes: Dialogue enables a `free flow of meaning, which has the potential of transforming the power relationships among the people concerned. As this free flow emerges, it becomes quite apparent that no one person owns this flow and that no one can legislate it. People can learn to embody it, and in a sense serve it. This is perhaps the most significant shift possible in dialogue: that power is no longer the province of a person in a role, or any single individual, but at the level of alignment an individual or group has with Life itself. If the comments expressed in this brief excerpt speak to your own needs and/or the needs of your organization, you don t need my endorsement. You already know what to do: Buy the book. - A superb contribution to a real understanding Communications. Do you know the difference between Conversation and Deliberation? Do you understand how to enter into real Dialogue and not the wastefulness that passes as Debate or the sterility of Dialectic ? This excellent contribution to Communications in Business should be read by every manager who aspires to Leadership. I wonder how many Politicians would be enlightened enough to face the fundamental choice point where the decision between suspend and defend is made and be ready to drop their proverbial baggage ? Not in this Country anyway! Read in conjunction with Fisher and Ury s Getting to Yes will enable any manager to cope confidently with dialogue and negotiations.
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Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together: A Pioneering Approach to Communicating in Business and in Life (ID: 0385479999)
